divorce

Progressive Grief

I’m reading C. S. Lewis’s “A Grief Observed”. Lewis is writing of his wife’s death and the emotions he felt and insights he gained.  Having a spouse die is much different than losing them to divorce. For example, when your spouse dies, you don’t fall apart because you are missing them horribly and at the…

A Crummy, Sad Post

A Crummy, Sad Post

When I titled my post yesterday, I really wasn’t thinking about the lyrics to the song, which I’ve included below. More fitting than I realized. The Captain and Tennille were married in 1975 and, sigh, are still married. I wish I knew how to make that second verse work. No super powers for me. Love…

No Pillar of Salt for Me

No Pillar of Salt for Me

My sister advised me not to be like Lot’s wife and spend my time looking backwards, lest I turn into a pillar of salt. Perhaps pillar of salt was a metaphor for grief and the salty tears that sadness brings? I know I can’t get through this time without grieving, without examining my life to…

Unbraiding a Life

Unbraiding a Life

The weather has been nice the last couple days. Thoughts of sitting on the deck with friends, talking and enjoying a beer, are dancing in my head. I keep trying to push these thoughts away and picture something else. But I don’t have any pictures to replace them with.  I forget that my husband doesn’t…